Happy 15th, blog fam! I hope November`s been wonderful to each of you, and I am elated to be back with you again. I was talking with a male friend of mine, and our conversation actually inspired this post. He asked if I ever considered doing a post from the male perspective/creative ways to involve interested males in the wedding planning process. I thought it was a fabulous idea, so for this post --
LET`S HEAR iT FOR THE BOYS !
Everyone has his or her own perspective of what weddings are, what they should be, and what they want their personal day to say about themselves.
girls vs. boys?
Thanks to Disney, Barbie, and all things girly, many females dream about their "perfect wedding day" from a tender age.
I do feel there is a stigma that has somewhat formulated around males and weddings. Many people think that men don`t care about the wedding planning process or having input in the wedding details. Sometimes, this is genuinely the case. Other times, however, males do want to be involved but don`t know how to express this to their blushing bride-to-be!
So ladies, how do you get your man excited enough to want to participate in the planning process with you? And males, how do YOU express an interest in getting involved and voicing your opinions without deflating her childhood dreams of her perfect princess day?
Let`s go (:
The wedding ceremony itself is the public declaration of two souls uniting as one, and technically speaking -- a couple`s wedding festivities should be reflective of BOTH parties. After all, you`re not marrying yourself! So what are some ways both parties can compromise to accomplish this?
_ Lana`s Top *5* Tips:
• COMMUNiCATiON iS KEY ! →
Talk to each other about planning details and keep one another informed about where you`re at in the planning process -- especially if decisions have been made, money has been put down for a deposit, or if you`re on the verge of doing either of the two. One party may choose to take the lead for most of the planning, but it doesn`t mean the other person should take a backseat or a total "hands off" approach. Even if the other person SEEMS uninterested in all of the moving puzzle pieces, eventually, keeping the line of communication open might encourage them to step up and actually WANT to contribute.
• SET THE MOOD WiTH A GROOVE ! →
Everyone loves music! As couple, music provides a great opportunity for the two of you to work together to choose the songs you want to involve in your wedding ceremony and reception. Along with the song choices themselves, this is a great time for the two of you to discuss options for types of music
-- live band vs. DJ vs. iPod/CD vs. etc.
Choosing hours and hours of music, with each of you and your guests in mind, can be harder to do than you think! As a suggestion, it may be easier for the two of you to put your heads together to decide which songs you definitely DO NOT want played, and take it from there. Many music vendors choose to operate this way also.
• 31 FLAVORS ? →
One life necessity that NO ONE can deny a love for is FOOD! A fun opportunity to lift your spirits and fill your tummies is to accompany one another on tasting appointments with your caterers. Be sure to keep your guests in mind, and having options for them to choose from is always a plus! Also, don`t forget to request a few vegetarian meals, just in case. In addition to how the food tastes, pay close attention to the presentation of the food that is presented to you at your tasting. Think of tastings as fun dress rehearsals of your REAL day and leave nothing to chance.
Nom, nom nom -- eat up! (:
• PRETTY iN PiNK ? A BLACK TiE AFFAiR ? A SiLVER LiNiNG ? →
This tip is probably the most obvious point where both parties can be vocal -- YOUR WEDDiNG COLOR SCHEME! While many women assume that men are not great with color coordinating, you can definitely rest assured that men definitely know which colors they DO NOT like! So the two of you should discuss colors and palettes that each of you like, and then narrow those down to some complimentary options. Or, if one party is primarily impartial, find out which colors they absolutely HATE, and use that as a starting point.
• YOUR DREAM DRESS, HiS DREAM TUX ! →
Women always have the fun task of hunting for the perfect dress(es) to wear on their special day, oftentimes referred to as "The most important dress you`ll ever wear!" Why not let the fellas have a say in choosing their ideal tuxedo? There are so many styles, cuts, fabrics, and colors to choose from, and this is a really classic way to let him stamp the day with his personal flair! The dress and the tuxedo should compliment each other and echo the theme, so make sure you`re both on the same page about these aspects.
Normally, I wouldn`t see you again until December 1st -- however, I promised you a triple-feature this month, so stay tuned for when I next get inspired for a November post!
Until then, please comment or Formspring me! Mwahhh (:
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